Learn to Battle
As well as being gentle and kind, God is fierce and powerful. You are made in God's image as a man. Within you is your Father's fierce and powerful heart. Remember when Jesus righteously cleansed the temple? When did you last stand up with that kind power? It may be buried, undiscovered, or lost but that fierceness lies within you.
Look around your church or Christian community. What do you see in the men? Not what is said, but what do you see? Do you see passion or boredom? Learn to battle as God intended and come alive.